{"id":573,"date":"2013-07-10T10:33:55","date_gmt":"2013-07-10T08:33:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.graz-psychotherapie.com\/?p=573"},"modified":"2013-07-10T10:33:55","modified_gmt":"2013-07-10T08:33:55","slug":"secrets-of-a-happy-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.graz-psychotherapie.com\/en\/blog-en\/secrets-of-a-happy-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Secrets of a happy relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Prof. John Gottman american psychologist and couple therapist has done much research (with his wife Dr. Julie Schwartz- Gottman) concerning the question what makes happy and unhappy relationships. On the basis of the results he has developed a therapy program for couples.\u00a0According to Gottman couples who see their relationships as happy don&#8217;t let the negative thoughts and feelings (which exist in all relationships also the happy ones) smother the positive ones- they have an emotionally intelligent relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Gottman states couples who live in a happy marriage\/ relationship have 7 secrets:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>they are familiar with the world of their partner<\/li>\n<li>they cultivate affection and admiration for one another<\/li>\n<li>they turn towards each other and not away<\/li>\n<li>they let their partner influence them<\/li>\n<li>they solve the solvable problems<\/li>\n<li>they overcome situations where they are stuck<\/li>\n<li>they create joint meaning<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"line-height: 24px;\">The basis of happy relationships is friendship. This is reflected in respect for one another and wanting to spend time together. If couples don&#8217;t feel happy any more they may have neglected the friendship aspects of their relationship. Making a conscious effort to focus more on being friends with ones partner may strengthen the relationship. However if this doesn&#8217;t improve the relationship, it may be time to seek professional help. People who live in a happy relationship are healthier and live longer than couples whose relationship is unhappy- it seems to be worth it to make an effort.<\/span><\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Prof. John Gottman american psychologist and couple therapist has done much research (with his wife Dr. Julie Schwartz- Gottman) concerning the question what makes happy and unhappy relationships. 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